Approaching a friend for date is one of the trickiest things to do as there are high chances of it backfiring and resulting into a broken heart. Even worst, if not approached properly, a friend may decide to end the contact altogether. On social networking sites like Facebook, it is easy to find a number of people committing the mistake of misinterpreting simple gestures as “The Signal” and jump the guns by proposing the friend for date without realizing the fact that an immature proposal is considered indecent.
It is common to observe the following conversation on Facebook:
B: I have an extra ticket for the show tonight. Are you interested?
G: You know what.. I have already seen the movie. The killer is Jessica.
B: Oh! So you are free tonight. Can we meet for dinner tonight?
G: Free but not so free:)
B: I just won a gold medal in cookery competition. Would you like to taste my winning recipe?
G: This is not exactly what I have in mind tonight.
Now, it is important to note that aggressiveness is not always appreciated especially if the reputation of the aggressor is that of a flirt. Getting rejected on Facebook could be very embarrassing and therefore it is important to approach the issue with caution. In order to approach a friend for a date it is important to first understand the reservations of the friend towards the way of approach. A number of people are turned off by direct approach whereas for others, direct approach is the only way you can convince them for a date. Once the predisposition of the friend is known, one can approach the friend for a date. The idea of date is also very ambiguous. Some people consider a simple dinner or a movie as a date whereas for more flamboyant ones date is anything but a simple dinner or movie. It is therefore always wise not to mention the word “Date” anytime during the conversation. Rather than going into the complications of the word “Date” it is always better to stick to less complex words like Dinner or Movie.
Once the friend has agreed to come out with you, it is important to do some ground work and preparation before the big occasion. It is prudent to have a plan. Some people prefer taking things as they come however, an unplanned date can be disastrous specially if the person you are dating is fuzzy or has an eye for detail and is not as enterprising as you are. As a part of preparation, it is important to buy a gift for the person. For casual dates, flowers or card may serve the purpose. Girls also like diamond pendants and a cheap diamond ring may give the right indication of your seriousness towards the friendship. Here again, one should not be too aggressive by gifting expensive diamond rings as it may be considered inappropriate and can be taken otherwise. Cheap diamond rings are easily available online or in stores across the street. Good thing about them is that unlike flowers or chocolate, diamond rings are lasting and shows ones commitment towards taking things forward.
Once everything is planned, execution is easy. So go for it…. Happy Dating.
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